Dad losing hope; Mom coping

Dad seems to have no hope, or is losing what little hope he has, of recovery right now.
With the aggressive liver cancer, the chemotherapy has been harsher. As a result Dad has been feeling it, unlike before.  He has been sicker than a dog the last couple days.  He is thinner again, due to poor nourishment.


Dad really misses the strength he used to have to do even relatively simple things.  I feel part of his losing hope is his feeling that he can do nothing useful anymore.

Dad has to urinate very frequently.  It seems like at least every half hour.
He said that it has been the same at night, so he has not been resting very well.
He has also been having trouble with not having bowel movements.  He asked Mom to prepare some rhubarb sauce, which she did after getting distracted multiple times, to help as a laxative.  It seemed to help.

A conversation today as Dad was returning to the bedroom from the bathroom:
Mom: Anything I can get for you?
Dad: Some good health.  (in discouraged tone)
Mom: Only way I know to help with that is to pray.
Dad: I am ready to go home. (Implying to be with Jesus Christ after death.)
Mom: I do not want you to.


I think it is a blessing for Mom that her memory is in the state it is.
She seems to consistently understand Dad is sick, but the seriousness of it seems to not stick constantly.

She told me that sometimes she has cried some, but often she wonders what is wrong with her that it just seems like another day.
She worries a lot about Dad's condition though.

Please pray for wisdom for Dad and the doctors on how best to proceed.

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